Saturday, November 27, 2010
When you lose someone......
This last week was a pretty tough week. A lot of unfortunate things happened to me and my family this week, but with the grace of God, I have been able to concentrate some. The worst thing that happened to me this week was the passing of a very good friend of mine. His name was Trent Roberts. He passed from medical issues that I prefer not to say, but they were health and lifestyle related. The worst thing about it all is that, he would call me and if I was busy, I would sometimes push ignore and get back to him much later than I should have. He would always cuss me out on my voice mails in a joking manner , calling me the worse friend and saying "He could be dead in the streets" for all I know. About two weeks before he passed, he left a more serious message saying call him, so we played phone tag back and forth. Then, as I left the hospital from my own drama on Monday night, I get a call from a mutual friend who says he is gone. Immediately I started to cry a in front of my children and my husband with no hesitation. I cried most of that night. I know he is in a better place, but I cried because I could have been a better friend by maybe picking up every single time. Even just to say I will call you right back. I realize that I get so wrapped up in school and my album and my family and own self challenges, that I forget what's important. My friends. Trent has taught me to cherish every phone call, every email, or text message a person sends, because you never know when God has your number. Even though he is gone, I still have his memories of jokes and fun. He was an awesome friend and comedienne, and I will never forget him. I love you Trent and will miss you. You taught me how to be a better friend. . .
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Sistah!! Dont' punish yourself, just learn from yourself! As you two KNOW the demands of being entertainers, Trent understood how time gets away from folks. Cherish the time you've shared and BASK in those memories!! This is how you can keep him alive in your heart and spirit. I've had the pleasure of meeting Trent when we worked on "Soul Kittens Cabaret" in Detroit and I found him to be a wonderful spirit and a joy to be around. I wish we had developed the friendship you talk about with much glee!
ReplyDeleteI faced the same situation when my Favorite cousin passed away Jan 1, 2000!! I couldn't believe he was gone that quick! He was so young and we spent soooo much time together, how could he be gone! He went into the hospital Dec 26, 1999, that morning I got a phone call and was too tried to answer but my lil brother did. I knew instantly it was my cousin but I figured Ill just call him later, but there was never a later. He went into a coma that night!! I wasn't allowed to see him because I was young and my family thought it was best not to see him that way. When I got the phone call he had passed, I acted as if nothing had happened I was in total shock!! It didn't hit me until saw his lifeless body!! The worst feeling ever, Ive lost love ones before but nothing like this. I didn't have any warning, nothing at all, never got to say goodbye, he was just here, he was so young, He was suppose to live forever or until we got older!! This has been one of the hardest things Ive had to deal with!! I still cry 10 yrs later. I wish I could have done something different, why didn't i pick up the phone, tell him to come over he might still be alive. But Ive learned that I cant punish myself with the what ifs I just had to learn to cherish those close to me. I really try to tell everyone how much they mean to me as much as possible!! We cant change the past but we can learn from it!!
ReplyDeleteYou guys are right. Trent will always stay with me in great memories. I will use his passing as a lesson to be a better friend to the ones that are still here:) Thanks for posting guys:)
ReplyDeleteI have dealt with 3 tragic deaths within the past year. Two this year...all in their 30s. I learned to enjoy those around me more and to let those I can't be around know that I love them...well even the ones I am around. My compassion has grown. I always tell someone outside of Curtis that I love them everyday. You're not a terrible friend girl...you (like everyone else)get caught up in life going full speed. But your friends death stopped you in your tracks and made you appreciate those around you a little more. Hold on to the fun times and great memories you had together and continue to love those you surround yourself with.
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